Flirting for sport!

If flirting was an Olympic sport, I would definitely win the gold medal. I’m a flirt who enjoys doing it just for sport. I love the suggestive nature of it. When you flirt for sport there are no promises and no commitments. All you have are just two people enjoying each other’s attention and exchanging suggestive banter. It has got to be one of the best pick me ups at the end of a long day.

I know that most people think that it’s sinful to flirt with someone else while in a serious committed relationship. I beg to differ. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it as long as both parties are fully aware that it’s just for sport. I’m in a committed relationship but I’ve also been flirting with this other guy for more than two years. I enjoy flirting with him and I refuse to give it up, actually there is no reason why I should give it up, it’s harmless.

Don’t get me wrong I love my man and only have eyes for him but I do enjoy the attention and banter between me and my flirting partner. It’s not easy finding a guy willing to flirt just for sport that is also good at it. I’ve put in time and effort to training this guy so that he can be at a level where we can spar quite comfortably. He already understands my cues and knows not to cross the boundaries that I’ve set for us, so why should I give all of it up? We both understand that nothing will ever come of our flirting but we enjoy the stimulation that it gives us.

Most single men don’t like flirting for sport. This is because men are goal orientated creatures. They never want to do anything unless they know that they are working towards a specific outcome. And flirting just for sport is just too open ended for them. Invariably the “so when are you going to come over to my place so we can do this” question always pops up. And when the penny finally drops and they realise that it’s never going to happen, they will cut off contact with you.

That is why unavailable men are the perfect sport flirting partners. What are unavailable men, you decide! Even if initially their goal was to try and get you to bed, they normally are not too disappointed when they realise that it’s never going to happen because they already have someone. So unless you make that option available to them, you’re safe. Taking away the goal also takes away the time limit and pressure associated with flirting.

Now as a female sport flirter your role is that of the gatekeeper. You set the boundaries for your game plan in a subtle yet firm manner. You want him to get the message but not chase him away. Most women suck at this. All they know to do is to either say yes or no to a man. They don’t know how to say no while saying yes and vice versa. It’s an art form ladies. I also understand that some guys don’t know how to take no for an answer, believe me that is not the right candidate for sport flirting.

You need to be extremely clear regarding boundaries at all times. Because given the chance; men will attempt to cross those boundaries and test you to see how far they can push them. You need to be able to do this without actually pushing him away completely, classic push pull behaviour. You must also allow him do all the chasing. Men are hunters, that is how they are wired and you have to let him chase you while making sure that he never really catches you.

Now there will be times when you might consider making your sparring partner something more than what he actually is and vice versa, especially when you are between relationships. Do not do it because it will never work. You will end up being awkward with one another because now you’ve changed the game around. Recognise the fact that this is just a game you two are participating in and keep it that way.

Now a sport flirting partner is not someone that you have constant contact with. It’s someone that you run into once in a while or chat to now and again over the phone or online. Once the contact becomes regular, you’re moving towards dangerous territory and should re-evaluate your situation. You don’t want your sport flirting to in any way jeopardise the relationship you might have with your partner. This is one of life’s guilt free pleasures people. There is no cheating or intent to cheat here. Managed properly it can even enhance your relationship. So come on, go for it what would it hurt?