Random Ramblings of a Spinster

I have been doing a lot of travelling for work and my colleagues are young males. For some reason they seem to see me as one of the boys. I have no issue with this as they tend to relax around and act like they do when there are no women around. I must say that I'm glad that I'm not part of the generation of women that is being preyed upon by these young guys. Maybe I'm old fashioned but when did it become OK,.... no "the norm" for men to tread women like objects to be used and discarded on a whim. Case in point, on the third day of our 5 day research project one of the guys complained of how sexually frustrated he was. This is someone who is a bit of a rolling stone and always brags about his conquests to the extent that I would wonder, why... While at a local 'tshisa nyama' which is barbecue for the non South Africans he arrives with this girl that he's just picked up fabricating a story of their being long lost loves who've been apart for the ...

I have been seeing a couple of stories lately regarding people that have lost their jobs because of things they have posted on social media... This has made me think whether this monster (social media) that we have created is not robbing us of some of the liberties we have fought for. Mind you I don't condone or agree with people who spew hate speech and tie it with a free speech ribbon and expect you to swallow regardless of how foul it is, but at the same time, we can't all have the same views and agree with each other all the time. Dialogue and disagreements are a crucial part of a free society, yet the clap back that people receive from expressing their opinion or simply posting their lives online is ridiculous.  The group hardest hit by this are celebrities because whatever they post is a potential headline for tabloids and hard news lately. We seem to choose to forget that they are human like all of us and we revel in seeing them get into hot water because of somet...

If flirting was an Olympic sport, I would definitely win the gold medal. I’m a flirt who enjoys doing it just for sport. I love the suggestive nature of it. When you flirt for sport there are no promises and no commitments. All you have are just two people enjoying each other’s attention and exchanging suggestive banter. It has got to be one of the best pick me ups at the end of a long day. I know that most people think that it’s sinful to flirt with someone else while in a serious committed relationship. I beg to differ. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it as long as both parties are fully aware that it’s just for sport. I’m in a committed relationship but I’ve also been flirting with this other guy for more than two years. I enjoy flirting with him and I refuse to give it up, actually there is no reason why I should give it up, it’s harmless. Don’t get me wrong I love my man and only have eyes for him but I do enjoy the attention and banter between me and my flirtin...

 Family Tree Tattoo For a while now I have been toying with the idea of getting myself a tattoo. Every time I see someone brandishing some beautiful ink on their bodies, I always get a pang of envy and wonder when I’ll finally get round to doing it. I’ve always had a love for beautiful art and tattoos are no exception but had an issue with the permanence of them. With the advancement in laser surgery and tattoo removals I’m assured of some form of escape in case I change my mind after the deed is done. Finding the right artist for what I wanted has been another hurdle. I’m very picky and finding someone who is both imaginative and interpretive can be a tall order in our country and even more so in the small town I stay in. The artists I’ve come across are very capable of bringing whatever picture you present them to life on your skin but it’s the interpretation that turns it into art. I’m the sappy and sentimental type therefore any tattoo of mine will have emotional an...

Last night as I was basking in the afterglow with my significant other, he turned to me and asked me the one question that should not be asked by any person in a relationship and expect complete honesty. This question should be banned from couples’ discussion topics because the temptation to lie, embellish or withhold information is just too great. Now if you insist on hearing the truth on this one, then you should be prepared for a surprise or two. He wanted to know how many guys I had been with before him. Awkward, considering what we had just done! I smiled and attempted to change the subject, didn’t work! I spent the next couple of minutes trying to avoid answering him, even giving him one of my toe curling kisses just to divert his attention to no avail. Apparently his curiosity was piqued by the blog post “ that grey hair moment ”, I wonder why. And here I was beginning to pat myself in the back, thinking that it must have been my amazing performance but I digress. “We...

Recently I have discovered that the hair in my pubic area is greying at a faster rate than the rest of my hair. Actually it’s the only place where I have grey hair! Now, imagine my surprise when trying to investigate this finding out that in general pubic hair is 12 years younger than your normal hair and for most people it takes a lot longer to start turning grey. Shock! What could this mean! I’m a woman in her early thirties who has been around the block a couple of times; actually I’m very well acquainted with the block. First thought that came to my mind was, am I the only person suffering from this phenomenon! So I go to my trusted friend Mr Google and type in “grey pubic hair”.  Ah ha! More than 2 million hits hooray I am not alone, there is safety in numbers! As I go through some of these sites trying to glean off some pearls of wisdom about my greying nether region. I am hit by the hilarity of frantic reaction that most women display when posting their co...